Parenting and Porn

We can no longer ‘do to’ our teens the way we did when they were smaller and had less power. We used to ‘put’ them in bed and ‘make’ them sit on the potty. These were coercive acts made possible by our larger physique and their dependence on us. Now we have...

What I Do When I’m Feeling Bad

  Today is one of those days when I feel like I don’t know anything about anything. It feels like the world is a little tilted and I’m spending too much time just trying to walk upright. The day started with worry about a comment my cousin posted on Facebook and...

What If I Don’t Like Parenting My Teenager?

On the weekend my son and I were booting up at the ski hill, getting ready to go for a few runs, and we were talking about our Easter Dinner plans for the following evening. The Boy is going to his dad’s house for a big potluck meal with family and friends, and I am...

Getting Clear on What You Want

Conflict happens much of the time because we want something or we don’t want something. Maybe we want to change a process or maintain the status quo when someone else is attempting to initiate a change. The only reason we are in conflict in these situations is...