Negotiating With A Teen About Money

  This one is a story about a single mom I coached through a conflict with her son. We will call the mom Joan and the teenager Jeff. Joan bought herself and 17-year-old Jeff both golf club memberships last autumn during the early bird sale. This is something Joan has been doing for years, and Read more about Negotiating With A Teen About Money[…]

A Mom-and-Son Battle Over Homework

    The other day a mom (I’ll call her ‘Judy’) came to me for coaching about a conflict over homework with her 14 year-old son (I’ll call him ‘Ben’). She explained that they have been fighting about homework for a few years but now that he’s taller than her and more independent than before, Read more about A Mom-and-Son Battle Over Homework[…]

What Ferris Bueller’s Day Off Can Teach Us about Resolving Conflict with Teenagers

Remember Ferris Bueller’s sister Jeannie? What we see in the movie is an eye-rolling, sarcastic young woman, and most of us agree with school secretary Grace’s evaluation of Jeannie: “what a little asshole.” But Charlie Sheen’s juvenile delinquent character actually nails her problem: Jeannie is pissed off because Ferris ditches school and doesn’t get caught. Read more about What Ferris Bueller’s Day Off Can Teach Us about Resolving Conflict with Teenagers[…]

Giving Our Teenagers the 1-1 Attention They Crave

I consulted with a woman recently about how to spend quality time with her teenage daughter. In a previous consult we had discussed the importance of regular special one-on-one time between the teen and the mom to build closeness in their relationship and create safety for the teen to open up to her mom. Now Read more about Giving Our Teenagers the 1-1 Attention They Crave[…]