It’s Your Job to Connect with Your Teen

  Our teen’s job, according to their developmental biology, is to separate from us. Teenagers are growing and learning and figuring out what is important to them and how they feel about their relationships and what they think about the world. Their values are becoming clearer and their self-image is solidifying. That’s a lot of Read more about It’s Your Job to Connect with Your Teen[…]

The Importance of Listening to Your Teen Complain

It is important to listen to your teenager complain. But this can be hard to do for 2 reasons: It’s super annoying It seems like a waste of time But teenagers need to complain. And you are positioned to be their best listener. We might feel scared about listening to our teen complain if doing Read more about The Importance of Listening to Your Teen Complain[…]

You Love Having Kids, But Do You Love Being a Parent?

I read and enjoyed a great book last year called The Meaning of Wife that explored things like the wedding industrial complex and the history of female ownership, among other topics. One idea from the book that jumped out was that while most women want to be a bride, fewer and fewer of us want Read more about You Love Having Kids, But Do You Love Being a Parent?[…]

Relationship Repair with your Teenager

  There was a confrontation. You had an argument. Maybe there was yelling. Both of you said some stupid things to each other and now there’s an icy tension. There’s no going back for a do-over, so how are you going to move ahead? It’s likely that what actually happened, your story about what happened, Read more about Relationship Repair with your Teenager[…]