Parenting From the Passenger Seat

This piece originally appeared in the March 2018 ‘Feminism’ issue of Fernie Fix Magazine.   Last month’s column advised this is not the time for parents to check out even if we feel burned out, because teen years are often when the wheels fall off the wagon. Teenagers are still assembling a picture of the Read more about Parenting From the Passenger Seat[…]

Parenting ‘Out Of Control’ Teens

I have to agree with Dr. Laura Markham – “There is no such thing as a brat, only a child who is hurting.” ‘Out of control’ is an assessment or judgment that *we* are making. The teenager likely would not use that same phrase to describe themselves, their life, or their circumstances. Immediate first aid Read more about Parenting ‘Out Of Control’ Teens[…]

It’s Your Job to Connect with Your Teen

  Our teen’s job, according to their developmental biology, is to separate from us. Teenagers are growing and learning and figuring out what is important to them and how they feel about their relationships and what they think about the world. Their values are becoming clearer and their self-image is solidifying. That’s a lot of Read more about It’s Your Job to Connect with Your Teen[…]

The Importance of Listening to Your Teen Complain

It is important to listen to your teenager complain. But this can be hard to do for 2 reasons: It’s super annoying It seems like a waste of time But teenagers need to complain. And you are positioned to be their best listener. We might feel scared about listening to our teen complain if doing Read more about The Importance of Listening to Your Teen Complain[…]