Music Makes the Parenting Mark

This piece originally appeared in the August 2018 ‘Music’ issue of Fernie Fix Magazine. When your kids were small you barely needed to do anything beyond breathing to win their adoration. With teenagers, however, it sometimes seems the mere act of breathing itself can induce their scorn. But if you play your cards right while Read more about Music Makes the Parenting Mark[…]

Parenting From the Passenger Seat

This piece originally appeared in the March 2018 ‘Feminism’ issue of Fernie Fix Magazine.   Last month’s column advised this is not the time for parents to check out even if we feel burned out, because teen years are often when the wheels fall off the wagon. Teenagers are still assembling a picture of the Read more about Parenting From the Passenger Seat[…]

Parenting ‘Out Of Control’ Teens

I have to agree with Dr. Laura Markham – “There is no such thing as a brat, only a child who is hurting.” ‘Out of control’ is an assessment or judgment that *we* are making. The teenager likely would not use that same phrase to describe themselves, their life, or their circumstances. Immediate first aid Read more about Parenting ‘Out Of Control’ Teens[…]

It’s Your Job to Connect with Your Teen

  Our teen’s job, according to their developmental biology, is to separate from us. Teenagers are growing and learning and figuring out what is important to them and how they feel about their relationships and what they think about the world. Their values are becoming clearer and their self-image is solidifying. That’s a lot of Read more about It’s Your Job to Connect with Your Teen[…]