I don’t have to tell you that parenting is THE most important job you do
You know that deep in every cell
When you feel connected with your teenager, you feel good about yourself as a mom or dad
But if your relationship with your kid is starting to suck, you know that starts to suck the life out of you. You wonder… Where did I go wrong? Why aren’t all my parenting efforts working? How can I get this kid back on track? What’s going to happen if I can’t turn this relationship around? Am I the only person with these struggles? How much longer am I going to have to endure this tension in my home? Who can I talk to about this who won’t judge me?
A rough relationship between you and your teenager is an urgent situation
Only if you are CONNECTED do you stand a chance of being able to influence his/her decisions. Problems in your relationship are urgent because your daughter or son isn’t just a co-worker you don’t get along with – this is a relationship you could lose sleep over for the rest of your life. You have a sense of urgency about your relationship with your teenager for a GOOD REASON – you know s/he is not ready for the big world yet, and it’s your job to guide her/him to that state of readiness. AND YOU FEEL RESPONSIBLE ABOUT DOING THIS IMPORTANT JOB.
You deserve appreciation for understanding the crucial role you play during this critical time of your child’s development
Thankfully, there is help if you need it. I offer PARENTING CONSULTATIONS by telephone or Skype where we can brush up on your communication skills for dealing with defensive and/or tight-lipped teenagers – $50. I also offer CONFLICT COACHING for when you need intensive assistance with an ongoing conflict situation. Together we will analyze the conflict for underlying themes, bring the issues to light, and untie the knots that have your relationship stuck – $75.
enjoy parenting again!
We all love our teenagers, but how much do we love to actually parent them?
There is more information available about parenting your 0-6 year old than any person could ever want to read. What help exists for parenting teens? Much of the advice focuses on how *bad* teenagers are and all the drama they create, or it focuses on how burned out parents are and how much we need a break. I'm not going to offer either of those perspecitves. Instead, I bring inspiration and encouragement, and show you how the best thing you can do for your teen is keep your parenting pedal to the metal during these final intense years of having your child at home, and not give up on your relationship.
communicating with your teen
it's all about listening
providing you with loving counsel
preparing for those difficult conversations
planning for success
creating closeness that lasts
Want to work with me?
I am a good match for you if:
You care about your teenager
You care about self-improvement
You want to do it differently than your parents did
You want to take the long view
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